The physical is our primary observation. We make choices and decisions based on observation. What we’re attracted to draws us in its direction, thus attraction in relationships is important.
What one is attracted to doesn’t mean it looks good or pretty, admirable, etc. what we’re drawn to can appear mysterious, grotesque, out of the ordinary, different, etc.
We’re sexually attracted to the qualities in a person that tantalize our desire, fantasy, etc.— it’s physical.
Physical attraction is never dismissed it's the first thing we lay eyes on and move towards. It is important.
You should be so wildly attracted to your partner that they still stir your loins even when you are both old, fat, and grey, without many loins, left to stir!
My wife and I are decades past our physical prime. We are old, but we are lucky—because we still yearn for each other like Gomez and Morticia Addams.
Physical attraction is not the same as physical attractiveness. No one wants to imagine what my wife and I look like having sex—but when we look at each other, our sags and wrinkles don’t seem to matter. We are still attracted to each other, even if we are no longer so attractive, by accepted standards of beauty or hotness.
Maybe it’s pheromones. Maybe Love really is just Blind.
Maybe it’s the fact that when I look at her, I see her as she is and as she was, simultaneously. Maybe I just see who she really is, inside. All I know is after 41 years, I’m still attracted to her.
Physical attraction is VERY important in a relationship.
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